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Strong On Defense

This
is my first book. It is no longer in print. Excerpts will be posted
periodically.
This
books theme is balancing corporate security with other needs.
Rhonda's
Story
December of 1980. I was working at Bob's Big Boy on La Cienega Boulevard
in Los Angeles. It was around closing time, 3 A.M. The first thing
I noticed was their dresscasual, very nice. Suddenly, they
both pushed into the area behind the counter and forced the manager
to stay there.
Then
I noticed the gun. I was filling salt shakers at the front of the
restaurant. "This is a jack," the one with the gun said. Later I
learned that means a "holdup." It wasn't difficult to figure out
with a gun pointed at me.
They forced
all nine of us, seven staff and two customers, through the kitchen
into the back of the restaurant. "Please don't hurt us," we pleaded
over and over.
They were already
getting violent with the cashier, hitting him a lot with the butt
of the gun. I think they singled him out because he didn't understand
the gunman's slang. We had to drag him with us; they hit him so
hard and so often he couldn't move.
Then they herded
us all into the walk-in freezer and robbed our jewelry, our tips,
whatever we had. One kept saying, "We're not going to kill you.
We're not going to kill you. Just do what we say." All of us were
praying. We all had our own backgrounds and religions, but we all
prayed out loud, together. Ditas the waitress was doing her rosary.
She had the beads clutched in her hands when she was killed.
They
ordered us to get to the back of the freezer. I was shaking so badly,
not from the cold, but from terror. They said, "Lie down on the
floor." The cashier was already unconscious on the floor, or maybe
dead from the beating. We couldn't tell and that only contributed
to our panic.
We were lying
on each other in the freezer. To put everything into a time perspective,
only about a minute and a half, maybe two, had passed since they
entered the restaurant. They sure were organized when they barged
in, getting behind the registers, herding all of us into the freezer.
But then they acted like they didn't know what to do next, now with
us in the freezer. They stepped out and we prayed again. I've always
believed at first they didn't have any intention of shooting usthat
it was just a last-minute decision.
The
freezer door opened. I heard the first gunshot. For an instant I
remember thinking, "This isn't possible." Then I heard a moan. I
remember reasoning, "They have everything, we can't do anything
else for them. Why would we be shot?" So the first shotI couldn't
believe it, shooting us? No!
My hair was
in an Afro and I felt the bullets pass through my hair. The first
volley of shots didn't last long, probably just seconds. They left
the freezer. The door shuts automatically. I remember just being
frozen stiff. Nobody moved, no one talked. We were paralyzed with
fear. Everything seemed to be happening in slow motionthat
slow-motion feeling was weird.
They came back
in. Ditas, already shot and bleeding, began to stand and said, "Oh,
no, please. We won't say anything. Just leave us. Just leave. We
won't say anything." They shot her again. Her body actually flew
back against me. I still have nightmares of her body against me,
her blood pouring onto me. But her body was my protection. Then
our chef was shot in the neck, in front of my head. I remember his
body vibrating against me when he died. Others were being shot too,
but they were a few inches away from me.
I have purposely
not thought about this for so longthe screams, broken only
with moans, dying moans. Ditas was still against me. I could feel
and hear her breathing. Then she moaned a little and died quietly.
I thought, "She just had a baby. Who will care for her baby?" I
remember hearing the drip drip of the blood trickling down the drain
in the middle of the floor. I was breathing so hard, but trying
not to breathe. I was unable to control my breathing or urine. I
let my body go. At that point I faked death. It was odd; in my mind,
my funeral passed in front of me.
Just as they
left, one of them said, "Wait! She's not dead." I knew it was me
they were talking about. "Let's get out of here now," the other
one yelled. The door slammed.
We listeneddidn't
hear anything outside. Then the manager said, "Rhonda, you're alive?"
"Yes!" "Rhonda, am I shot?" I moved enough so I could see himmy
God, his eye was completely blown out. He kept asking, "Am I shot?
Am I shot?" I told him, "No, you're not shot." I don't know why
I said that, I just did. I pushed Evelyn's body off me and gave
myself a once-over. The manager said, "We've got to help these people."
He still didn't realize he was shot and that his eye was missing.
Four people were dead. Four more wounded. I was the only one not
shot.
Bryan
(Rhonda's husband)
It took Rhonda years to work through this. Obviously, people are
forever changed after something like that. For a long time she felt
uncomfortable going into any kind of restaurant, grocery store,
market, especially one with lots of people in it. Even now, we kind
of case the place, especially convenience stores, gas stations.
We kind of check it out before we get out of the car. We even look
for escape routes, just like I've learned cops do. At first I felt
a little paranoid; later it just became a habit. Rhonda's experience
has definitely made us stronger.
I know a few
cops and I've heard them say that it becomes an unconscious habit,
planning to survive something. We never pull up and say, "Just in
case this place gets robbed, you go ahead and take off." We never
discuss that stuff now. We discussed it enough in the beginning
that now it's just an unspoken thing between us.
Rhonda
I cared for the people I worked with. I couldn't just think of number
one and the hell with anybody else. But if I hadn't known anyone,
jumping through a window, going through an exit doorit would
have been easier and it would have saved some lives. But the connections
with friends stop you from leaving to save yourself. Without connections
I could have escaped. I know that now. They had less control initially
because everyone was spread out. Plus they had too many distractions.
But once we were in the freezer, there was nowhere to go. Nothing
we could do when they started shooting. We were at their mercy.
I've thought
about this over and over in my mind. I'm positive the situation
would have been different if there had been some kind of training
for something like this, training beyond customer service. Maybe
someone would have gotten away. Maybe that would have panicked the
gunmen.
I was way off
mentally. I thought, "I'll be safer if I just cooperate." Following
them like sheep gave them more and more control. Those first few
seconds, we had the best chances. No doubt about it in my mind.
Bryan and I
have changed so muchsitting with our backs to the walls, knowing
where the exits are, looking at people when they come in, sitting
in the back of a restaurant, like cops. It will give us an extra
second or two. Bryan and I feel our best defense is not weapons,
it's our talking and planning that will make the difference for
us, giving us a better chance than the people around us who probably
haven't talked about it. We know if we have to run for it, Bryan
has this kid and I've got that one. It's not a guarantee, but it's
a better chance.
For
the Record
The two men were apprehended. Both had criminal records. They were
convicted for numerous crimes, including the murders in the freezer,
and given life sentences. (At that time in California, the California
Supreme Court would not permit death sentences to be carried out.)
The two convicted murderers continue to appeal to this day.
Do What
I Tell You or I kill Her'
As Rhonda pointed
out, criminals control victims by threatening their friends and
colleagues. "Connections" stop everyone from concentrating on escape
and taking action. I remember a serial rapist we had of over forty
victims; he frequently controlled two or more at once with a knife
by threatening to kill the one he was raping. The others were forced
to watch, horrified and completely under his control.
At most crime
scenes, people are paralyzed with fear over what will happen to
them and others. Lives are lost because no one makes that first
explosive move. No one shouts survival orders. I've been at the
scenes and heard the laments of survivors: "If only I had
"
When mind-setting
against crime, include scenarios and decisions that place you in
a leadership role at the time of exploding violence. If it happens
when your family and friends are with you, your leadership may save
lives.
It was
published by a business conglomerate for their employees &
clients.
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